Life Path 4
Date of Birth: 12/17/1955 = 1 + 2 + 1 + 7 + 1 + 9 + 5 + 5
= 31 = 4 = Life Path
“Don’t wait for your ship to come in, swim out to it.”—Anonymous
“The 4 needs lots of positive affirmation and is afraid of criticism. This can mean that when they have a great idea, it often lives and dies in their head because they are reluctant to act on it. They over-process, saying to themselves, “If I can’t do it perfectly, I don’t want to do it at all.” A lot of their dreams are never achieved as a result. The 4 vibration needs to remember to follow the old Nike slogan: Just do it.”
The Numbers Lady
The 4 Life Path is a very cerebral, intelligent number. The 4s are seekers of knowledge and born teachers. They often wear glasses, and I think of them as “human computers”— the fact that Bill Gates is a 4 Life Path is no surprise. They are into the logic of life—A plus B must equal C.
We learn from 4s. If I said it’s a beautiful day with a blue sky, a 4 might add, “Yeah, but do you see that black cloud?” The 4 is not trying to ruin my day; they just want me to see the situation from all sides. I call this the “Spock mentality.” They are always seeking truth. While they sometimes come off as cynical, what they are really trying to do is give you information that they think will help you. You’ve got to take them with good humor, because they really don’t mean you any harm. They are actually trying to make your life easier.
The 4 is the first to say, “I don’t want to argue”—and yet they always wind up in arguments! Why? I believe it’s because they are so honest and they are very direct. They don’t often cushion the blow.
The 4 can intuitively fix things and often don’t quite know how they do it. Children with this vibration can solve puzzles that would stymie most adults. I knew a 4 Life Path eight-year-old girl who figured out how to adjust the broken door on the family dryer with a safety pin, so it would run until the repairman got there. Young 4s seem wise beyond their years
All of us would do well to keep a to-do list, but it is absolutely essential for a 4. [I have so many lists I need a list of my lists.] Their minds are filled with so many different thoughts that unless they keep a list, it’s easy to let a couple of things slide by. Once the thoughts are put on paper, the 4s can set their minds at ease and avoid having too much going on in their very busy brains.
Nature’s beauty has a calming effect on the 4. They often like to hike and camp; they tend to be very good at gardening and enjoy working in the backyard. Growing their own food, or making a beautiful garden with flowers they can be proud of, is a very healthy outlet, for the 4 likes to move slowly and deliberately. They don’t want to have anyone pushing them into a situation they don’t feel ready for. This Vibration likes to have a plan and they want their lives to be orderly.
A word of caution for the 4: with a mind that’s always running at full speed, the temptation arises to drown your thoughts in alcohol. You have so much going on up there and just want to relax.
The 4 Vibration must find healthy, positive outlets to help free yourselves from your own overactive minds. Something I often suggest to my clients, especially the 4, is keeping a journal. [I journal everything: my health, my food, my dreams, my time, and the list goes on.] You can write your thoughts out and purge whatever is troubling you, rather than trying to drown it with an addiction.
There’s a very grounded quality to the 4. The average 4 is not obsessed with being filthy rich; they just want to make sure they have enough for the future to feel secure.
Honesty is crucial to the 4, especially in relationships. When 4s love, they are very sincere about it. If they discover they’ve been betrayed, they can lose their trust, making it very hard for them to love again. The other type of 4 will concentrate so much on their work and plans for the future, they won’t notice the relationship falling apart and will be shocked and devastated when it ends.
In general, the 4 absorbs everything about their surroundings. They see everything, and because of the way they process information, they need their peace and quiet. They have this sensible, traditional, well-behaved way about them. They don’t like people who are overly flashy or gregarious. If someone is too loud or obnoxious, they will get offended. The 4 is very selective in their friendships, and they don’t need a lot of people in their lives. There is a loner quality to the 4, similar to that of the 7.
It is not uncommon for a 4 to have panic attacks. They want the situation they’re in to be in absolutely perfect order. Scientists, however, tell us that the natural state of the universe is chaos! They need to embrace this fact and rest assured that things will sort themselves out in the end. Remembering this can make a 4 feel better immediately.
A final thought on the 4 Life Path. The 4 does not like to look naïve in any situation. When they learn a skill, they are inclined to become expert at it—that’s why 4s make such amazing teachers. So if there’s a 4 out there working for someone else and thinking, boy, I could do this better than my boss, then I suggest you start teaching it to other people. You’ll make your own money, and finally find true fulfillment. ♀ ♂
Natural Match Numbers 2, 4, and 8
Compatible Numbers 3, 6, and 7
Challenge Numbers 1, 5, and 9